To Grow, Don’t Be Afraid to Trim

Last year I was seriously not liking my hair. After graduation I cut it, well maybe cut isn’t the right word, it was like an overly ambitious trim. I was happy. I could start again. I could make goals specific for my hair and I could  closely monitor my regimen, I would take care of my hair and hopefully see it flourish and grow!

Several weeks after I trimmed my hair I had a falling out with several friends which wasn’t  unexpected, but losing friends never ever feels good.  The only thing I could relate it to at that moment was cutting my hair. I kept saying to myself Well you have to trim your hair for it to grow, so it makes sense that you’ll have to trim you’re friends to cut out the bad ones for you grow and get to the next level.  I must have had this discussion with myself for about two weeks straight. When I go back & think on that time, the people who I no longer talk to weren’t helping me at all, to be honest, it wasn’t a great friendship. Sometimes we hold on to stuff because it’s so comfortable. Letting go is hard, but necessary. I have goals. I have a plan of action and I know where I want to go. I need people in my life who are supportive, who will help me grow and push me to do my best. But these same friends should be concerned and critical, when I’m being egocentric and selfish TELL ME. Honest Friends. True friends. They are very hard to come by, even today I struggle with this concept of true friends and if it will exist for me.

Well it’s been about 18 months since my hair trim. Now, my hair is longer, thicker, fuller and healthier than it has ever been.  It’s almost parallel to my personal life. I’ve tightened my circle. It’s a little circle. Not quite a power circle maybe just a “pow” circle. But I have learned a lot in the process and I’m still growing daily. I am still 5’3″  sooo yes it is all emotional growth. Not everyone is going to make it to the next level in your life and it is okay. Really! It is the way things are supposed to be.  I used to hate this saying, but you do have people in your life for a reason and a season.  Learn the lessons they present, enjoy the time together, but you keep pressing forward no matter what.  Work hard at your goals, have faith and keep going.

If you have a goal to start leading a healthy lifestyle observe which one of your friends (family too!!!) keep having junk food when you’re around. If you plan to go back to school, see which people in your life start doing and saying things that counter your plans.  Small stuff. I could give countless examples, but you have to be wise and decipher who is really in your corner and who sent their hologram.

You have to trim your hair to grow.

Get There.
✗♥O

Friday’s Fury: Knowing But Still Not Doing.

Personally, as a trainer, this is the elephant in the room, we like to sugar coat it && guide our clients gently, but  if you want to see results and you KNOW what to do-then do it. Point Blank. Whether you’ve been told by a trainer, done thorough research on your own or had another reliable source tell you-you officially know the basics of what to do. In this case I’m talking about nutrition & fitness & their dependence on each other to lose weight, maintain the weight or even gain weight/muscle.

Constantly, I tell clients & friends, record everything you eat & drink for a few days so you can visualize && understand how much you’re eating and drinking everyday and how that affects your health & impacts your weight. Then you can adjust accordingly and gradually. Seeing as though diet is a major factor, more so than exercise, I think caring and making a conscious effort to do better with your eating habits are important. Don’t you think so?? The errors and frustrations occur when weight isn’t getting lost even though there is a strict exercise regimen. That is almost solely diet related.

My point (in short because lawd I could go on) is, if you know what you have to do and although it may be difficult, you will always have some type of support. (I WILL BE SUPPORTER #1 BABY!) You will get results, slow & steadfast is great do not get discouraged.  With results whether they are inches, pounds or muscle gained you’ll feel better. Yes, it is a lifestyle change && it will not be easy, but challenge yourself to take it to the next level. If you know what to do, do it. Getting that extra push is great, but doing it on your own is even better. Don’t be scared. Don’t tell me it’s fear? It better NOT be fear!  Let your faith be bigger than your fears!

I believe in you. You better not forget.

✗♥O
Get THERE!-where ever there is.

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If you want to start making changes in whatever aspect of your life you CAN do it, You Can! But Remember it may not & usually isn’t easy, hard work, perseverance, determination are few of the traits you’ll need to reach your goal(s.) And know there will be obstacles, but you can do it. It starts within–with you.

-Get There.