Oh I hadn’t realized it.
Nah I’m totally kidding, I think body shaming is at an all time high. Body shaming is a result of a person saying negative comments about another person’s weight (or size), a negative attitude and, I’d go on to say, negative thoughts too. Body shaming can result in discrimination against those who are considered “overweight” or “obese.”
These nasty attitudes & comments (I’d say about 95% of the time) are thrown at people- usually women- who are fat. That is specifically “fat shaming.” I have an interesting relationship with this because I was once a fat shamer, not so much with my words, but with my thoughts. When I was younger I thought it was absolutely unacceptable under any circumstance to be overweight. It’s so stupid to think like that. No specific person taught me to be like that, but I was (probably media and society’s doing) and it took me reading a several articles and having a pretty blunt discussion with myself to realize I was a problem.
There are people on social media, podcasts and articles that I read/follow which highlight being proud of who you are no matter what size you are-Body Positive. It has been so beneficial to keep reading & seeing these types of messages because far too often the media highlights ONE type of woman- you know the type, and there’s very few that actually look like that “ideal” woman. I am not ashamed of how I used to think because I was younger & ignorant, but I grew up & learned up. You continually grow and better yourself with time… and that’s for any topic and any ignorance.
So you may be wondering how body shaming is connected to me- or even if it is. Usually at work I’m in my oversized hoodies, but as the temp rose, I broke out my racer back workout tops. Many times I’d get hit with the ” oh God you’re so tiny/small/skinny” comments I’d give a *polite smile* and go about my business, but in the last few weeks it’s been so often with the rude, unnecessary and unfiltered comments. Everybody has to comment on how I look, how skinny I’ve gotten this winter, how they can’t send me home smaller than when I came. Please do us [me] a favor and STFU.
At one point a couple week ago, I got out the shower and had to give myself a once over because ..well damn maybe I am too small, but then myself quickly recovered into confident Muse again. I AM small. But I should never feel uncomfortable about it. I shouldn’t need to hesitate about what I should wear because it may provoke comments. I never questioned myself ever & I don’t plan on doing it again. I can’t imagine how others feel.
Body shaming is unacceptable and there has to be a systems level change so that toddlers won’t feel ashamed for how they look. Children, teens, adults, well everybody needs to feel comfortable with who they are…my thing is- be healthy. Now let me set something straight, “skinny” shaming still doesn’t have the consequences of “fat shaming.” Yea I am annoyed & irritated, but I’m not discriminated against, & my life isn’t altered. Fat shaming can be so horrid that those things happen. Body positivity is something I promote & will continue.
If you want body positive blogs/sites here are a few to check out
What are your thoughts on body shaming? Has it ever been done to you–what was your response? & Most importantly, how do you combat body shaming?